Girls Are Complicated?
Boys always say girls are complicated. I always find this statement amazing. Amazing not about some specific thing in this phenomenon, but about the phenomenon as a whole.
How complicated is complicated? If we even say the adjective "complicated", there must be a standard with which we compare. So boys think girls are complicated because they (boys) think they (boys) are not as complicated. But girls like to think that boys are too simple because they (girls) think they (girls) are not as simple. So boys are simple and girls are complicated, huh? Actually, when you think about it, girls don't understand boys as much as boys don't understand girls, isn't it right? Boys are actually complicated for girls too, but girls would prefer to see this complicatedness of boys as "simple", for some reason.
How complicated everything is......
Boys and girls use different languages. I believe we have heard of this. We may all use English, but when I talk with you, I'm using my English and you're using yours. Your words may come in to me as something else while my words may go in to you as something else.
Boys talk literally while girls love roundabouts. So the boy just takes the girl's words literally while the girl keeps trying, in vain, to mean something else. Then the girl tries to figure out what the boy means while the boy literally means what he says.
And then there is body language, and the different "channels" of body language boys and girls use.
So it ends up? Disaster.
Actually, girls aren't complicated at all, before they make themselves complicated that is. That's right. They make themselves complicated. Of course, I being a boy, can also be countered by a girl saying that boys make themselves simple. As a matter of fact, this is because boys don't see any need for themselves to be complicated while girls, knowingly and unknowingly, tend to practise some form of complication. And this tendency exists even between girls themselves.
Believe me, sometimes girls don't even understand each other (or themselves). I have some female friends the other day telling me that sometimes they don't even know why they behave that way or why they feel that way. At times, they can't realize the sources and causes of their feelings or thoughts, much less understanding them. Complicated girls, aren't they? (So complicated even they don't understand themselves?)
I only talked about girls just now doesn't mean boys aren't like this. There are lots of boys who don't understand themselves as well. However, boys are less troubled by one thing that troubles girls: emotions. And that brings us to the next point.
Emotions. Feelings. "Girls' stuff", we might think. I said girls are troubled by them. Why? Aren't feelings and emotions important for human beings? Don't feelings and emotions contribute to the love we have for each other? Correct, but that's only one way of seeing it.
Boys tend to have stronger libido in general, and we all need it to want to reproduce. Libido is a good thing then, isn't it? But hey, this stronger level of libido causes much problems for males. Even if they don't act on it, the constant conflicts between desires and "counter-desires" on the inside can be troublesome. By the same logic, feelings and emotions can strangle a girl if she can't handle them well. If you're a girl, you'll understand exactly what I'm talking about.
Boys have a higher level of aggression in general. So some boys in the male population tend to raise their fists in a dispute. Girls, on the other hand, tend to attack each other's feelings. They're experts in "the art of hurting feelings" and can deliver some real blows to upset the other party.
One interesting note, though: while punching each other is more like a crime in the eyes of the law, hurting each other's feelings isn't. (Becareful: hurting feelings is not to be confused with libel and slander.) So next time, no matter you're a boy or a girl, try using "the girl's method" instead of "the boy's" so that you won't get in trouble. And if you've mastered "the art of hurting feelings" as well, use it on a girl and she'll hate you like hell. Lol! That's so mean.
I'm only kidding, so don't blame me if you want to do it.
Anyway, back to girls being complicated, you should now notice how their feelings and emotions can further complicate themselves. Yes, this is my next point. Girls already have the tendency to be complicated, and their feelings just add on to it. If you're a boy, imagine you're not as complicated as girls are, and you're less affected by your feelings as girls are, how would you think of girls? So d*mn complicated, aren't they? Twofold the complication, in a sense. That's why our society seems to think that girls are complicated. That pretty much sums it up.
So, are girls complicated?
Boys will say yes (because they're not as complicated).
Girls will say yes (because they're complicated themselves).
But boys who are able to decipher girls' language will say no (because they're not as complicated yet able to see how not really complicated girls are).
Lol.
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